The relationship scorecard: Many people who are in a relationship do this without knowing that it's super toxic for their relationship. When you have an argument, instead of reminding each other of your past mistakes, you should focus on dissolving the issue at hand. What happened in the past should stay in the past. Keeping a scorecard of who did what will not help either of you in the present.

If you're doing something special for your partner, you need to do it because you want to. Maybe you've gifted him something special or you cooked for him or you made a wonderful gesture in some way. But that doesn't mean that you should keep recounting those things. If you do that it becomes clear that you're keeping a score of things and trust us, that really isn't a healthy thing to do.

It's great that someone means so much to you that you'd want to spend every moment with them. But that doesn't mean that you start terming them as your ‘everything’. Your partner should be a part of your life, they shouldn't become your entire life. If this happens, eventually you will begin to lose yourself and you'll end up blaming both yourself and your partner for this.

Yes, you might love your partner a lot more than you probably care to admit. But everybody is human and everyone makes mistakes. If there's something about your partner that you don't like, then you need to tell them. Letting things go and making justifications for their behaviour will only make you resent them later on.

There's a line between making a joke and being cruel to someone. And this is one line that you should never cross. It doesn't matter how funny you think something is, if you know your words will end up hurting your partner then don't say them. And the same goes for your partner. If they know that you're insecure about something, they have no right to make fun of it.

A lot of people do this. Dropping hints and portraying other kinds of passive-aggressive behaviour will not help your cause. If you're upset about something you need to be clear about it with your partner rather than trying and making them mad to justify you complaining to them. You need to have open and flowing conversations to address your issues and if your partner really loves you they'll at least listen to what you have to say.

It's a given that you will not like everything about your partner. But holding the relationship hostage over every petty issue can turn really ugly really fast. Just because you feel your partner has been ignoring you or there's something they did that you didn't like, doesn't mean that you threaten the commitment of your relationship. Rather than creating drama via emotional blackmail, learn to give feedback to your partner in a positive way.

Now, this is just manipulative. Your partner is not responsible for your emotions especially if you've been having a bitter day. Rather than just expecting them to be obligated to make you feel better by dropping all their plans, tell them how you feel and trust them to help you out as they see fit. Any sacrifices that your partner makes for you needs to come of their own will otherwise if they're forced, they will begin to resent you.

This one just sweeps the problems under a rug from where they will emerge again and worse than before. You cannot buy the solution to your problems. If you don't like what your partner is doing, they need to be held accountable and vice versa. Buying each other gifts and presents to make up for the situation rather than communicating will only make your problems much, much worse. So, we hope these tips will help you communicate better with your partner.