If you think relationships are tough, you haven't yet met your partner's parents. Hah! There are chances that your partner's parents won't like you or already don't like you. And while the reasons behind it can be many, one major reason could simply be because they're very protective of their child and would want to be careful about the person their child decides to take a big step forward with. Now, if you already have an idea about your partner's parents not liking you, don't worry, it's not the end of the world.
We've got you some tips on how to handle them when they aren't all that fond of you.
- Always remember that you have an entire human being in common. Both of you love your partner and that's one way to bond over the love. Spend some time checking out their childhood photos and you can also ask your partner's parents to share some funny stories.
- Try to do little things to show them that you care. Don't walk into their house like you're a guest in a hotel but instead, offer help with cooking or setting the table or simply cleaning or clearing the dishes.
- There are chances that they may not lie you but they only want to see what is best for their child. They're doing what it takes to know you as a person out of concern and love for their child. So, try and not take everything they say or do seriously.
- Being patient is key! Understand they they don't know you and it might take them a little while to understand you and warm up to you. There is no point rushing into things and learning to wait for the good things to happen.
- Respect them but don't let them get away with things all the time. You must know how to stand up for yourself where it's needed but also make sure you're doing it politely. Very importantly, don't make your partner choose sides.
- One of the most important thing to keep in mind is to understand that you cannot control things. You might be doing everything it takes to make your partner's parents feel comfortable around you, bu that doesn't mean it will for sure make them accept you. Learn to let go of things and accept that sometimes, they won't be okay with you and you will have to be okay with that. Relationships are a two-way street and they also need to do their bit.