A lot of us struggle with managing our life in a better way. There are times when we are surrounded with negative emotions and negative vibes and we don't understand how to get a way out of it. One thing leads to the other and we keep spoiling our life and fail to find a reason behind all our sufferings. This is when we should be knowing that we're self sabotaging which needs a fix because it's only going to damage us further. Self-sabotaging habits will only harm us in the long run and so it's very important to spot such behaviour and fix it sooner than later. Here are a few things you need to understand:
- If you're someone who's got used to hiding your emotions each time, you're doing it all wrong. Not telling people what we're going through mentally or how a particular situation makes us feel is simply self destruction. We eventually isolate ourselves from people on an emotional level and refrain from sharing our genuine feelings rather than seeking help when it's actually needed. Expressing ourselves is very important and when that doesn't happen naturally, it will only hamper your personal life.
- We criticize ourselves once in a while which is okay, but only if it doesn't hamper us for a long time. Self-criticism is a good time if you take it positively and work towards it to better yourself. But letting it turn into self-loathing only ruins our life and makes us think that we aren't good enough to be doing anything nicer in life. If you manage to make yourself unhappy with all the self-criticism, you're not letting it go in the right direction.
- A lot of us also procrastinate on a daily basis. And if this habit isn't fixed, one things after the other will keep going down the hill and you'll end up delaying a lot of work which needs to be finished. It's alright to laze around once in a while but completely not okay to let it turn into a behaviour. If this continues, you tend to justify it to yourself which only makes it worse for your professional as well as personal life.
All the negative habits including self-pity should be put to an end if you want to see yourself turn into a better human being. Small steps towards a better life will put an end to all your self-sabotaging habits.