No relationship is a bed of roses. Every couple has to go through their ups and downs. Be it with their own selves or their families, they always have to battle it out. And there also exists relationships that are far from perfect, mostly toxic. And as much as we'd like to notice that it's all going down the drain, we tend to hold onto it simply because we're in love with our partner. But that isn't going to better you, rather it'll play with your mind and heart and bring you into stress and depression. So before any of it goes haywire it is always better to consult a relationship counsellor. For that, you have to identify the big signs that you're getting our of your relationship and only then you should be sure of consulting one.
Here are some big signs that you should be noticing in your relationship:
- Repetitive fights: Fights are as natural as loving is. And they also keep the relationship healthy. Until they get dirty and repetitive. Same things over and over even after giving an explanation for it is not going to get you anywhere. And fighting over one thing for endless number of times means you and your partner are simply not over it and want to drag it because neither of you want to forgive and forget.
- Emotional gap: Oftentimes, you might miss the emotional connection. Something that used to be effortless on the earlier stage has now become a task. And this only results in arguments and distance between you two. You stop feeling the way you once felt and you can't relate to the same things anymore. This is called growing out of what you once had. This is when you need help.
- Physical intimacy: A relationship needs physical intimacy as much as emotional one. And when that starts to change between the two of you, things will start falling apart. If either one of you is losing interest and the other one is finding it difficult to get things back to how they were, you need someone else to fix it. And that someone is a relationship counsellor.
-Abuse: Any relationship, however new or old, should never reach a stage where it turns into an abusive one. Know that you're in this relationship for each other and not because you own each other. You can let it turn into a nightmare where each day begins with abusing each other and each night ends with one.
If you see any of this happening in your relationship and if you think you sort it all out by yourself, feel free to consult a relationship counsellor instead of sulking through all of it.